A New Words on Words



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Today’s Word? PERFECT

What does it mean to be perfect? It’s a word we toss around rather casually. “Oh, those roses are perfect.” “Did you see that absolutely perfect sunset last night?” I found the perfect dress to wear to the wedding.” The problem comes when someone else says, “The roses are nice but if you want to see perfect you should see the ones in my garden.” We each have a picture of perfection in our heads but it’s impossible that two of those pictures are precisely the same. The way we argue about ‘perfect’ seems to propose the idea that we all can agree on what it means.

We talk about making something perfect as if that were possible. My Webster’s unabridged dictionary defines perfect as: ‘Complete in all respects, without defect or omission, flawless.’  And the reason we can’t all hold the same picture of perfection in our heads is that we can never agree on what “without defect” or “flawless” looks like. What looks like perfect to me may reasonably look flawed to you.

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We talk about making something perfect as if that were possible. My Webster’s unabridged dictionary defines perfect as: Complete in all respects, without defect or omission, flawless. And the reason we can’t all hold the same picture of perfection in our heads is that we can never agree on what “without defect” or “flawless” looks like. What looks like perfect to me may reasonably look flawed to you.

Nothing wrong in having a different mental definition of perfection from everybody else until we insist our own definition is the only valid one. When we decide that something is perfect we can’t allow that someone else might consider it less than perfect because that argues against our perception. We feel as if they’re saying to us we’re wrong.

So we argue more vehemently, talk a little faster, raise our voice to drown out the other person’s words. And ultimately become angry with them for their wrong-headed ideas. We dismiss them as somewhat sub-human. Anything rather than admit that there may be more than one way to look at something.

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Fortunately, it’s not necessary that we all agree on whether something is perfect or not. It’s far more important to agree that we don’t see that ‘something’ in exactly the same way. Doing so doesn’t make either party more right or more wrong. It just makes us all more humane.

As we enter the Christmas season it seems to be the ‘perfect’ time to think about being more generous in acknowledging that perfect is in the eye of the beholder . . .

Until Next Time!
Ellie Pulikonda, Author/Writer of “Split Second”
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2 thoughts on “A New Words on Words

  1. Maybe instead of perfect we should say…That makes me happy or I feel good when or just that is perfect to me. My perfection doesn’t have to be anyone else’s. Even if someone doesn’t agree with my perfect, it is still perfect to me.

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